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Article #183: International Adoption - Is it possible to find Triumph from Tragedy

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In the early hours of Dec 26th 2004 the area.
Western world awoke to the unfolding The local administration has asked those
horror that we came to know as the Asian interested in adoption to send in
Tsunami. Those of us still recovering applications. But they are in no hurry to
from obscenely large amounts of food and move these children out.
drink from the previous day sat Around 60 children have been put up in an
transfixed as we watched a horror story orphanage run by the Zion Church in
of biblical proportions unfold before our Nagappattinam.
very eyes. Parvathi lost her parents but has
The United Nations estimated that the returned to the school to take her
Asian Tsunami left more than five million examinations. She visits her relatives
people homeless, including about 1.5 once a month and says she prefers to stay
million children most of whom became in Nagappattinam.
orphaned. The outpouring of emotion from Local charities and social activists have
around the world was of mixed benefit as lobbied hard with the government not to
far as the region was concerned in that "give away" these children for adoption.
yes we all dug deep into our pockets and Aftab, a young activist, says he learned
yes we all lobbied our Politicians to a lot from the aftermath of the Gujarat
something about it and yes bizarrely this earthquake in 2000.
tragedy may have had some knock on effect He says that in the past two months there
in the movement to alleviate Third World have been several instances of
debt and poverty but the blessings were representatives of organisations trying
mixed as far as the people on the ground to "forcibly" take away orphans.
were concerned. Nagappattinam was one of India's
Since the disaster, adoption agencies worst-hit areas" The local community
around the world have been fielding phone objected and expressed its willingness to
calls from well-meaning families wanting take care of such children," says Aftab.
to adopt a child from one of the "None of these children want to be moved
countries hit. out," he says.
Adoption experts say the best thing The local administration, Aftab says, is
people can do is to donate money to still not clear about what it wants to do
causes that directly help the children. with them.
They say it's wrong to take a traumatized He has met representatives of different
child away from the environment that they villages who back the idea not to move
have grown up in. them out.
"Adoptions, especially inter-country "Why should these children be sent to
ones, are inappropriate during the orphanages and homes far from here?" he
emergency phase as children are better asks.
placed being cared for by their wider Efforts by individuals like Aftab seem to
families and the communities they know," have had an impact.
said the charity Save the Children in a The local administrator's office has
statement released Jan. 6, 2005. decided against any hasty decision.
International Adoption needs to be well One official summed up the dilemma faced
planned by the government: "The issue of children
"The last thing they need to do is be is a delicate matter in any community...
rushed away to some foreign land," said one wrong step and we will invite the
Cory Barron of Children's Hope wrath of the people."
International, an American adoption Adoption experts are hoping the
agency. "We have to think of the child outpouring of interest in adoptions from
first." the tsunami disaster might translate into
Adoption by some well meaning couple in adoptions elsewhere. The real tragedy is
the west flying half way round the world that the tsunami doesn't even dent the
bearing large sums of money to whisk the numbers of orphans worldwide, the real
child away to a life totally alien to numbers are unfathomable. Most adoption
everything it has known isn't always what specialists say the number of orphans
is in the best interests of the child. globally may be somewhere in the range of
It is worth bearing in mind the following 40 to 60 million-13 million in
facts after any tragedy like this: sub-Saharan Africa alone due to the AIDS
• Children will be experiencing an crisis there, and many more in Russia,
immense sense of loss and grief. China and Latin America. Only a fraction
• They will need to know what they feel of those children are in official
is normal and that they're not going adoption pools.
crazy. "We are hopeful that the tsunami-affected
• They need to be with people they know countries will eventually have an open
and to feel as safe as possible. mind to international adoption," says
• They need to establish a daily Thomas Atwood, President of the US
routine as soon as possible to reduce National Council for Adoption. "But we're
their fears. also hopeful that parents will look to
• They should play with other children adopt children in other parts of the
to have time away from their fears and world. There are thousands of children
allowed to have creative expression such available for adoption right now. For
as materials to draw. those whose hearts have been tugged by
• Those separated from family members the tsunami, perhaps this is a step in
need to be registered as soon as possible their journey towards another child."
and reunified quickly. So perhaps even after the darkest and
• Putting children in a temporary care most terrible of tragedies there can be
facility or an orphanage should be the some positive long term benefits and
last resort. these are that whilst a large number of
Around 200 children were orphaned and people may ignore the need or desire to
many more lost one parent when the adopt from within their own communities
Tsunami struck the district of in favour of adoption with an
Nagappattinam in Tamil Nadu state, the International dimension this raising of
worst-affected region in India. the Adoption Profile and the inherent
The local administration has handled potential problems may well bring some of
scores of queries from individuals and those new to Adoption back to considering
organisations wanting to adopt the Adoption from within their communities.
children. The other benefit that can be taken from
But fears of human trafficking have made this whole affair may be the overall
the government tread with caution. The increase in the awareness of the concept
emphasis now is on rehabilitating these of Adoption itself. If this in turn leads
children in the local communities. to more children being partnered with
Suryakala, a district social welfare Adoptive Families then that can only be
officer in Nagappattinam, says many considered good.
children they talked to preferred to






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