| It is quite natural for parents to have all sorts of | | | | easy to handle. A handicapped child certainly needs |
| dreams about their children, more so if they belong | | | | more attention parents should try to involve their |
| to the highly educated and affluent class. Children | | | | normal child in the care of the handicapped child |
| from such families are exposed to a more favorable | | | | without making him feel that he is being neglected. |
| environment and as such are more likely to make full | | | | They should try to make him feel important by |
| use of their talents and skills. But it is necessary to | | | | acknowledging his role in the care of the less |
| bear in mind that every child is unique and no one is | | | | fortunate sibling and also for his own achievement. |
| an exact replica of his parents. Some parents tend to | | | | Another serious mistake committed by parents is |
| get upset when their children do not seem to go | | | | comparing their children with children of others. Many |
| along a path they had envisaged. Though genetic | | | | parents ridicule their own children telling them they |
| factors play a very important role in the personality | | | | are useless by comparing them to others. They |
| of an individual, children can very considerably from | | | | should never do this. The only outcome of such an |
| their parents in several aspects. A child born to a | | | | act is subconscious hatred for parents. Such parents |
| great scientist may want to become a musician and a | | | | lament that their children are neglecting and ill-treating |
| child born to a great musician may show more | | | | them during old age not realizing that it was their |
| interest in science. Sometimes a child of exceptionally | | | | own making. Parents should always look for positive |
| intelligent parents may be of below average | | | | attributes is children. Every one has both strength |
| intelligence and vice versa. | | | | and weakness. By focusing or a child's strength |
| Many parents commit the mistake of showing special | | | | parents can bring the best out of them. This helps is |
| affection towards a particular child- because of his | | | | building a stable and enjoyable relationship. It is quite |
| her looks or intelligence or some special skill. They fail | | | | common to see parents proudly announcing the |
| to realize the impact of this bias on the mind of the | | | | achievements of their children. They even take credit |
| other children. In such a situation other children may | | | | for their children's achievements. But if one child fails |
| develop inferiority complex and not try to improve | | | | to achieve something does he/she cease to be their |
| themselves. They may also harbor jealousy and/or | | | | child? To sum up parents should give their |
| hatred towards their sibling and also hatred towards | | | | unconditional love to all their children right from birth. |
| their parents. This can lead to many serious problems | | | | They should give up unrealistic expectations, desist |
| in the family. On the other extreme a handicapped | | | | from making sarcastic remarks and help the children |
| child may get all the parental attention leaving normal | | | | to become the best of what they are capable of. |
| children frustrated and angry. This situation is not | | | | |