| When we first got married, my husband had a huge | | | | not once, since that night, laid a single finger on me. |
| problem when it came to controlling anger. I had not | | | | He had reached out to his doctor for some help and |
| known this before we exchanged vows. Would I | | | | ended up taking a few medications that seemed to |
| have done things differently? I'm not really sure, to | | | | help calm his personality down quite a bit. Controlling |
| be honest. Whenever something went wrong or | | | | anger wasn't something that he learned overnight. He |
| didn't quite suit him, he'd explode. He'd use every | | | | spent a few hours in counseling learning about |
| single bad word he could think of and get this crazy | | | | controlling anger and how to relax. Verbally, he'd still |
| look in his eyes. His voice would rise and this horrible | | | | explode every so often. The insults would pour out |
| man took over his body. I would back away from | | | | and I'd have to let them roll off of me as much as |
| him as quickly as possible but not before feeling | | | | possible. It wasn't easy. Here I am now, very happily |
| some of his emotions explode on me. He's never | | | | married and thankful that he's been willing to change. |
| beat me up or severely injured me. There were two | | | | There are many people out there who know what it |
| times that he yanked and squeeze my arm a bit too | | | | is like to be with someone who has difficulties in |
| hard and left bruises that were quite noticeable. I felt | | | | controlling anger. Not everyone is as lucky as I was. |
| lower than I'd ever felt in my entire life. When I got | | | | A great deal of violence against women is a result of |
| pregnant, I feared his problem of controlling anger | | | | not being skilled in controlling anger. An angry |
| would escalate once the baby was born. | | | | husband, boyfriend or ex might suddenly lose touch |
| Our daughter was 4 weeks old when his anger got | | | | with reality and give in to his rage. Bruises become |
| the best of him one night. And there was simply no | | | | more difficult to hide and explain when people start |
| way that he was capable of controlling his anger. I | | | | to notice. Sometimes people are beyond help. But, |
| feared for our safety and called the police. Those | | | | some people can learn about controlling anger and |
| officers showing up at our house was the first night | | | | make some amazing steps towards defeating it. My |
| that he took a step forward in learning about how | | | | husband still struggles and I have learned to tell when |
| controlling anger is incredibly important. I'll skip the | | | | he's on edge. I try to help him as best as possible. |
| details but our daughter is now 3 years old. He has | | | | He's overcome a great deal. My family is better for it. |