| When thinking of the term domestic abuse, it is not | | | | essence by his mate, he no longer sees her as a |
| uncommon to see a picture of a helpless female | | | | precious gift to protect and care for, but an enemy |
| beaten by her male significant other! Images in our | | | | of his soul, in which he must destroy in order to |
| society portray Domestic Violence from the typical | | | | survive! Unfortunately, that is when the doors for |
| male vs female perspective. That is a very accurate | | | | violence are often opened, and the women and |
| and sad reality. However, often men are incriminated | | | | sometimes her children, face the physical aggression |
| unjustly, and sometimes the victim of a Stealth | | | | of a desperate man fighting to maintain what little |
| Abuse campaign launched by the women they love! | | | | manhood is left! |
| Any form of abuse directed towards another human | | | | Many would say the man should just leave the |
| being be it physical or psychological is wrong. | | | | relationship. That is a viable solution, however it is not |
| Unfortunately, many times the male in a dysfunctional | | | | that easy for a man to walk away from a marriage |
| relationship usually bears the burden, and is often | | | | with children. As a man is socially conditioned to |
| seen as "at fault" when relations are troubled. The | | | | stand, endure, tough it out, and honor his |
| women's movement has done an excellent job in | | | | commitment to his family, he and society sees |
| advocating for the safety, and well being of our | | | | walking away as weak and incompetent. Thus, the |
| sisters, and has been quite effective in helping to | | | | man involved with an emotionally abusive woman is in |
| free many women from the chains of relational | | | | a catch 22 situation in which he is wrong if he does |
| toxicity. However, not all men who are cuffed, | | | | and he is wrong if he doesn't stay in the clenches of |
| detained, and booked by the correctional system for | | | | a dysfunctional marriage. Of course physical violence |
| charges of Domestic Violence are deserving. In many | | | | is not the answer. However, some men become so |
| instances what we see is the end result of years of | | | | frustrated and confused over the emotional abuse, |
| covert or subtle abuse inflicted on the male by his | | | | they see no other option! |
| female companion, in which the male is gradually, and | | | | The current legislation is designed to aid women in |
| subtly, tormented, and psychologically castrated! | | | | getting free from abuse, through protective orders, |
| Through constant messages, that attack, his beliefs, | | | | shelters, advocates, and strict laws on violence! |
| decisions, judgment, and ability to lead, the female | | | | However, there are very few systems in place to |
| literally destroys what was once her knight in Shining | | | | help "good men" in bad situations. I have seen |
| Armour, and reduces him to a state of mind where | | | | countless scenarios where, unscrupulous women have |
| he is ineffective, inefficient, and at that point | | | | used the courts, the women's movement, and even |
| incapable of leading. It is actually a form of witchcraft | | | | their own children, to systematic destroy the "good |
| that the female has used on her mate! Keep in mind | | | | men" in their lives. It is not until we began to see |
| this message is not to condone violence against | | | | Domestic Violence as a human condition, instead of a |
| women, nor is it an excuse for the cruel and vicious | | | | gender based plight for the pursuit of female liberties; |
| acts of many men. It is an effort to illustrate the | | | | will we see an equitable exchange of strategies, |
| very subtle and hard to identify underpinnings behind | | | | solutions, and resources to improve the well being of |
| many Domestic Violence cases! | | | | all people. Regardless of age, race, or gender, when |
| When a man has become psychological castrated, his | | | | any man, woman, or child, is victimized by any form |
| woman has reduced him to a state where there is | | | | of abuse, the safety, well being, and integrity of our |
| no distinction between his role and hers. As his | | | | society is challenged, and mankind is delivered a blow |
| masculine authority and personal power has been | | | | that is hard to endure! |
| robbed from him, he is reduced to a defective | | | | If you are a woman reading this article who fits this |
| dependent state where she has usurped his | | | | description, or a man who has been subtly victimized, |
| manhood, and he has become emotionally dependent | | | | I urge you both to seek help from a competent, |
| on her for approval and validation. Consequently, his | | | | counselor, minister, or therapist. |
| position of protector, provider, and priest, have been | | | | Remember, If you are not part of the solution, you |
| lost, and the masculine/ feminine roles become | | | | are part of the problem! |
| reversed. Once a man has been robbed of his true | | | | |