School: Rules for Parents and Teens

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For StudentsIt's also important to remember that grades are
* The Law of a Good Start: Both parents andmerely a measure of aptitude, effort and ability.
students say they get off to a great start and thenThey are not a measure of your child's worth.
begin to fall off. It's human nature. We start to do* The Law of Knowing: Here are three things every
well and then think we have arrived and can begin toparent should take the time to get to know: your
coast. It doesn't work.child's teacher; the material your child is being taught;
* The Law of Staying Out in Front: Keep doing theyour child's friends and the parents of those friends.
things that got you off to a good start, or do themGo to school. Meet the teachers. Ask questions. If
even more. Another way to stay out in front is toyou want to do something radical;, invite your child's
take whatever deadlines are given to you and moveteacher over for dinner. You can get to know better
them up. In this way, you can be done in plenty ofsomeone who is influencing you child; the teacher can
time and can relax.get to know your student's family; your child gets to
* The Law of Manageable Pieces: Once you hitsee that teachers are regular people.
middle school, you have many classes and all the* The Law of Different Perception: This one is
work that comes with each class. If you look at it asespecially important for parents. For the most part,
a whole, you will become overwhelmed. Break itparents and kids have very different perceptions
down into smaller pieces, one class at a time, onewhen it comes to school. The parent's perception is
assignment at a time. Do that one assignment wellthat we work for a living and want to do well at our
and then move on to the next. Doing small piecesjob. Kids don't work, so school is their job, and, of
one at a time allows you to accomplish a great dealcourse, they should want to do well at it.
more than you thought you could.Often, however, the perception of kids is that school
* The Law of Procrastination: Beware the words "I'llis their social world, interrupted by six or seven
do it later" because later rarely comes. If you can getclasses a day. These differing perceptions often
a handle on beating procrastination now, you will becreate a wide gap to bridge.
way ahead of most folks. The next time you are* The Law of Importance: This is probably the most
tempted to procrastinate, put it off. Tell yourself youdifficult one to flesh out in the real world. At some
will procrastinate later and do it now instead.point, school needs to become more important to
For Parentsyour child than it is to you. Somewhere along the line,
*The Law of Report Cards: Report Cards can showshe must find something to be excited about that is
much more than grades. If grades are low in theseparate from your desires and expectations.
morning classes and higher in the afternoon, it couldAt some point, students need to be put in charge of
be an indication of too little sleep. If the grades areschool and be responsible for the outcome.
consistently lower after lunch, what might be going