| One of the effects of domestic violence is illustrated | | | | you have no want or desire to leave. |
| in studies done by organizations like the Coalition for | | | | This is where the verbal violence comes in. It is not |
| Battered Women. It is believed that when a woman | | | | just about constant trashing of the victim (although |
| attempts to leave a violent relationship the risk to | | | | that works pretty well too) but also creating a world |
| her increases by a startling seventy five percent. | | | | where the injured party becomes totally dependent |
| Why? As the Coalition's executive director Barbara | | | | on the abuser. |
| Price states, "He's losing power and control, and | | | | They are told to a constant drumbeat that it is not |
| that's what it's about." Which means the abuser will | | | | possible for them to function like a responsible adult |
| do anything to get it back or anything to make sure | | | | without the abuser present to hold their hand and |
| no one takes it away. That specifically and very | | | | guide them every step of the way. The never |
| directly means the victim. | | | | ending violence has destroyed the victims self |
| It's no wonder that many victims of domestic | | | | esteem to such a level that they cannot help but |
| violence choose to stay in the relationship rather than | | | | believe it. Even a strong person mentally and |
| leave. The abuser has told them repeatedly what | | | | emotionally can only take so much. The abuser takes |
| would happen to them and has given them all too | | | | them to the breaking point and beyond. |
| real examples to emphasize the point. It goes | | | | And much of it can settle on minor day to day |
| without saying that after so much of this the victim | | | | activities. If you are getting abused for instance |
| figures the situation now is better than the one they | | | | because you did not run a particular errand in a timely |
| could face. | | | | fashion then how do you expect to function out in |
| That's a powerful motivator to stay where you are. | | | | the real world all by yourself? |
| Yet there is another one that when used in | | | | Of course this is nonsense. The majority of domestic |
| conjunction with the physical assaults keeps the | | | | violence victims were doing alright for themselves |
| domestic violence victim thoroughly in check. And | | | | before they met their abuser. No doubt with the |
| that is telling them there is no way they could ever | | | | support that is out there they will do alright again |
| make it out in the real world. | | | | when they leave the relationship. |
| When it comes to the effects of domestic violence, | | | | There are many effects of domestic violence but |
| verbal abuse in the hands of an expert manipulator is | | | | the fact that many victims do not leave and are |
| quite powerful. They have gotten your full attention | | | | quite adamant about it tells you how horribly |
| by physically assaulting you so now they need | | | | successful this type of manipulation can be. |
| something to make sure the gate stays locked and | | | | |