The NFL and Domestic Violence

Violence is a trait of many NFL players. Let's face it,game, a player's adrenaline is flowing and they may
football is a violent sport and it encourages violenthave a lot of extra energy. If the player was in a big
behavior. Unfortunately, what football does not do isgame that his team lost, this can increase the
teach players how to behave non-violently tolikelihood of violence at home. When you take the
problems off the field, particularly when it comes toenvironment of football where problems between
relationship problems.players are sometimes solved in scuffles and pushing
This violent behavior begins when boys start playingeach other around, this behavior becomes second
football as children. The boys are taught to behavenature to players. In football, if somebody gets in
tough and aggressive by their coaches, teammates,your face, you push them away. However, there is a
and even their parents. Boys are taught to use theirhuge difference between pushing a strong 275 lb
body and strength to tackle competing players.player out of your face and pushing a 130 lb woman
Making a good "hit" is encouraged. This positivelyout of your face. What seems like nothing between
reinforces boys to behave aggressively. The boysplayers can be deadly when used toward a woman,
are taught to be strong, to be unafraid, and to be aand much of the time, it is done as a reflex from
man. The name of the game is to be tough,years of being physical with other players. That is
dominant and show no weaknesses.why it is so important that from childhood on,
Unfortunately, the boys playing football are notfootball players are taught how to control their
taught that this behavior is acceptable only on thebehavior off the field.
field. As boys who play football reach adolescenceThe NFL does have programs to teach players how
and adulthood, they have learned how to useto behave off the field. The problem is that by the
aggressive and dominant behavior to win. It is thistime a player reaches the NFL, it is almost too late to
behavior that can lead to domestic violence againstteach behavior control. By this time the player has
women.spent more than half of his life being taught to be
Football never teaches players how to communicatephysical and aggressive. This behavior is now so
with a woman. Is this the fault of football coaches ordeeply embedded in the player's mind that it is very
should parents take responsibility? The correctdifficult to change. That is why it is so important that
answer is that both should take responsibility. If youfootball coaches and parents teach these young
are going to reward a child for behaving violentlyboys how to behave off the field and to be gentle
while playing football, you must teach that child howwith women.
to control their behavior when not playing football. IIf you are a parent reading this article, please talk to
believe that from childhood all the way through theyour son about violence and that violent behavior
NFL, football players must be taught how to controltowards other people, especially women, is wrong.
aggressive and violent behavior. They need to beYes, physical and aggressive behavior is ok on the
taught that violence off the field is unacceptable,football field with other players, but that is the only
especially towards women.place it is acceptable. Off the field, players must be
The divorce rate among NFL players is very high.taught to control their aggressive behavior and use
Players bring the violence and aggressive energytheir mind to solve problems, not their body.
they have on the field home. After practice or a