The Shaping of a Life

Last weekend, while five of us were returning homemy purse and handed him the money. We stood
from a lovely weekend trip, my friend and I wantedthere, looking at each other a very long moment. His
to look at some plant holders and knick-knacks madeeyes spoke. Surprise, appreciation, compassion.
of clay. Near the Mumbai Naka at Nasik, the driver ledHe didn't take the money, quickly re-calculated and
us to a large make-shift shop on the road side. Aasked for a lesser amount. He let me know that he
few nice Tulsi plant holders of various sizes anddid not charge me for a couple of items - those
shapes, little trinklets and diyas at the entrance werewere his gifts for me! That afternoon, we were
interesting enough for us to step inside on thatpresent to wisdom, maturity, an allowing space, deep
unusually hot afternoon.listening, heart, quick action, appreciation, kindness,
The large cloth tent, the space perhaps twice thegiving, compassion...magical, moment by moment
size of my little home in Mumbai, protected all theexperience.
items in the shop from the wind, sun and everythingI wondered if a school education would have
else. Interesting utility and home-decor pieces madeprovided, or even allowed him that kind of wisdom.
of clay heaped all around and yet, neatly placed suchHe was in my consciousness for the rest of the
that one gets a good look at everything.journey back home. Is there something we could do
A thin, young boy perhaps not more than 12-13to support his interest in getting a formal education?
years of age, walked around us; non-intrusive andWe may have to counsel his family... Who will look
yet, available; a gentle, soft presence. A few feetafter the shop?
away sat a lady with an infant asleep on her lap, aWhat is his story so far? How will his journey unfold?
3-4 year old standing near her, and another little oneWhat shape will his life take? Who will help shape
crying aloud for her attention from a tin-shed, whichthat story?
was perhaps their home. She sat there, disinterestedI reflected about my own life. A journey that can be
and disengaged. Lost and unavailable.summarized in a few words as self-supporting,
My friend and I hopped around, excited to find littleresponsibilities, care-giving, Grace...long, difficult
treasures to adorn our homes - and were surprisedjourney but a fantastic one, nonetheless. Fantastic,
to learn that they were very, very affordable.because life has unfolded far beyond my wildest
Images of friends whom I could gift some of these,dreams...flowing through unknown paths.
flashed through my head and I thought, "Oh, I wish ISeveral people played their parts in the journey - I
had carried some more money..." My friend inquiredreceived all the nurturing I needed, at times when I
where all these wonderful stuff came from. Withneeded it the most, from various sources. It
pride in his posture and joy in his eyes, he happilycontinues to be so. Like tending a plant in its growth...
rattled off names of far off cities and their journeyLike the shaping of a mud-pot... Looking back, how
to his shop. And I wondered about the journey of hisdid that happen? Amazing Grace?!
life...Everyone just appeared from nowhere, followed
While he was neatly packing each item intheir hearts and went along, having played their part;
newspapers, my friend, who works for Childthey did what they did and I did what I did.
Protection Rights at UNICEF, muttered under herMy friend, sensing my quiet pre-occupation and
breath, "This is child labor". She inquired about hisseeing the range of feelings passing through my face
interest in getting a school education. Waving a handsaid, " Jas, what would you have done if you were in
around he said, "I did study for a while.. I ammy situation? We are working so hard as an
interested. But then..." That wave of the hand said itorganization to create a transformation in this area;
all.and we are doing a lot. But you have no idea how
His life. His family was under his care; Hismany systems and complex situations we have to
responsibility; To feed them; To look after them.work with to make this happen. It is very frustrating
What will happen to the shop if he were to goto see how little we achieve at the end of the day..."
pursue formal education? Where will he find theIs it really that difficult? Supporting the shaping of
money to cover the cost?one life. ONE life... One life by one person...one life by
He quietly calculated the price of each item. Doing theten...by twenty?
math in his head, he told me the figure. I was notIs it really that difficult?
interested in bargaining a better deal. I reached into