| In most cases, now and in the past, many women | | | | In a marriage, it is all about a man learns the woman |
| have complained a lot about men refusing | | | | is cheating, traps her and confirms, or the woman |
| responsibility for women they make pregnant and | | | | does the same. At the peak of it, one of them |
| leaving them to take custody of the children, | | | | blows up and can take it no more. And brings it to |
| especially in Africa. Things are slowly turning upside | | | | the open. What follows could be whatever.a divorce, |
| down. | | | | fighting, calling each other names throwing insults to |
| Women have realized that they can equally do what | | | | each other, in short, all hell breaks loose and the |
| men can do especially making it big in business. When | | | | marriage is threatened. |
| they are financially stable, most women are opting | | | | But what if the children or the child is the one to |
| for single lives. So they engage in relationships that | | | | discover, his mom or dad is cheating? I can not |
| lead to having babies that they are not ready to | | | | imagine the impact that would have to that child. All I |
| grant rights to their fathers to be custodians. They | | | | know is that, the family would break up immediately |
| are therefore using men to have children and | | | | because; the two parent would start fighting. The |
| damping them without a heart. | | | | child's life is never the same since he/she no longer |
| Many men do not care about what a women feels | | | | sees the mum or dad the same again. Trust that |
| when she is left all alone to bear a child that two | | | | was there is destroyed. I mean, this child's life is |
| mature people are involved in bringing into this world. | | | | destroyed all his life. But life must go on. When the |
| It is simply painful for her. Sometimes men need to | | | | child is all grown up, he may choose to bring it to the |
| be treated the same way to experience what a | | | | open or vice versa. |
| woman feels. | | | | Most of the children would choose to hide it just to |
| But where is all this taking us anyway? By doing this | | | | protect their family and live with the guilt of knowing |
| who are we punishing here? The man responsible? | | | | one of their parents is a cheater. Most parent would |
| The woman? Or the child. Why do we have to take | | | | do anything to beg the children not to tell their |
| our children through such insensitive conditions? We | | | | partners because they know the impact. So that |
| probably grew up knowing two parents, why do we | | | | family no longer lives in peace. If you asked me, I |
| want our children to grow without fathers? Especially | | | | would rather we all become responsible people. If |
| when they have realized their responsibility. As much | | | | you as a man do not respect your woman, then she |
| as we are punishing the men because they deserve | | | | will never be the sweet woman you used to know |
| it, let us also remember our children are human beings | | | | when you decided she should be your wife. Same |
| too. Why are you being so selfish as a woman. And | | | | case to the woman. Love can be sweet if given a |
| for the men, why wont you take responsibility for a | | | | chance. Everyday can be a valentines day for any |
| child you bring into this world? | | | | married couple that know what love is. In this site, |
| If this world is on fire, then we are the people | | | | unique dating is the key. It doesn't have to be like |
| making it burn. Why don't we be responsible people? | | | | the old same dating thing! Date responsibly; think |
| Bear children responsibly and bring them up the Godly | | | | twice before you do it. Have a heart. |
| way. Let us change for the sake of our children and | | | | This is an original article written by Esteri Maina on |
| our future generations. | | | | WOMEN Esteri Maina is an author with a great gift |
| Married and Cheating, When your children unearth it! | | | | and full of inspiration. |