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South Africa has lately been at the gonorrhea, guarding against pregnancy,
center of the world prostitutes movement. protecting your clients from infections.
The International Network of Sex Work Nobody wants to expose a customer to an
Projects is currently based in Capetown. STD.
And not far from Capetown, the recent When it comes to prostitution and
13th International AIDS Conference was illness, it's the transmittable ailments
held July 9-14. But whether it occurs in that get all the front-page coverage. But
Geneva or Durban, this event is a magnet for many hookers, the biggest health
for sex workers' rights activists and is problems are work related yet
a must-attend for anyone who plays a noncontagious. So, safe sex can also mean
leadership role in the world prostitutes abstaining from vaginal intercourse --
movement. with lovers or clients -- to reduce the
Right now, as I sit in New York, playing mechanical irritations leading to
hooky from the biggest event of the nonspecific urethritis and recurring
year, alliances are forming and shifting, bladder infections.
dying, reviving. Political love affairs "I had a UTI [urinary tract infection]
are breaking down. Some are being that was actually caused by my boyfriend
tenderly nourished. Covert enemies are -- we were having too good a time -- and
smiling at each other as they salivate I couldn't work," one girl told me. "My
over each other's funding. New factions doctor ordered me to stop fucking for two
are sprouting as former enemies are entire weeks. I didn't listen to him
forced to share hotel rooms. Australians because I felt better -- the infection
are dissing each other to their foreign was gone. And then the problem came back
allies, Latin Americans are making North a month later. I lost more time because I
Americans feel guilty and North Americans was too greedy to give my body a rest."
(especially from the U.S.) are trying The second time around, she stuck to
not to offend anyone from Europe or any oral sex during the recovery period and
developing countries. was able to return to work.
AIDS is a tragedy of epic proportions, In each case, then, "safe" takes on
claiming millions of lives. But AIDS has different meanings. Many readers of my
also made the prostitutes movement a fiction series have asked why fictional
global one. Before AIDS, the movement call girl Nancy Chan doesn't kiss. Is it,
sought its alliances among feminists, and they ask, because kissing is too
this limited our growth. During the past intimate? Not exactly. Refusing to kiss
decade this has changed and most of the clients on the mouth is, for many
important alliances tend to be AIDS professionals, a form of safe sex.
related. AIDS is terrible, we all agree, Many working girls say that kissing
but it helped our movement come of age. increases their chance of catching a
Many activist prostitutes have built cold, and most prostitutes I know worry
innovative careers in public health, more about catching a cold than they do
social and medical research and elsewhere about contracting an exotic and deadly
because of AIDS. virus. The STD problem they've got
In real life, far from the politicized covered -- with condoms -- but other bugs
atmosphere of the sex workers summit in are harder to dodge. Many prostitutes
Durban, working prostitutes also benefit say that being exposed at close quarters
from the very thing they fear. In the to so many people is a challenge to the
1980s, when my friends in the life became immune system. They fanatically dose
aware of AIDS, some clients had trouble themselves with vitamin C and coenzyme Q,
getting used to condoms. And one working keep boxes of homeopathic cold remedies
girl I know expressed the problem on hand and sleep a lot.
personally. She told a client: "If you've Even though a cold won't kill you, it
ever had to sit next to the hospital bed will put you out of work for a week.
of a friend who is dying of this Prostitution is demanding: You are
disease, you'll appreciate the need for a required to look and act alert, happy,
condom!" healthy and pretty at all times. You
Yes, '80s foreplay was sometimes cannot do this with a runny nose or a
heavy-handed. But she wasn't kidding. One sore throat. In some jobs, you might be
of this girl's best friends from high regarded as a hero for struggling into
school, a gay man, had just died. the office with the remains of a head
Later, when just about everyone in our cold. In this job, you just look
sphere -- clients, working girls, madams desperate.
-- had converted to the cause of condoms, When your body is your business, you
she told me: "Thank god for AIDS -- when don't find it insulting to be told about
I think of all the men I used to see the latest new STD test -- you actively
without condoms, I just can't believe want the latest and the best in
it!" prevention, detection and (if need be)
Her sorrow over a friend who died of treatment.
AIDS was, is, still real. But AIDS gave A friend of mine in the business says,
her a good reason -- an "excuse" -- to "If you don't get an HIV test, if you
use a device that had been unfashionable don't sit down and think about every sex
for a while. Condoms made her work a lot act you perform, you're unprofessional.
safer in general. Risks she had If you don't use condoms, if you don't
previously taken for granted pre-AIDS now get your blood tested, you're an
seemed intolerable. Like any other incredible slob. It's piggish not to care
person who has experienced technological if you're a pro. But if you're not a
improvements on the job, she was amazed pro, it's romantic; it's a sign of your
at what she had once been able to live innocence perhaps or your purity."
with. In 1992, one of my closest friends, an
Other prostitutes agreed with my friend. editor in her 20s, was still on the Pill.
It was comforting to know you weren't I knew what this meant: She wasn't using
being exposed to chlamydia, pregnancy or condoms! How relentlessly I nagged her,
gonorrhea. Men, the selfish beasts, and how merrily she resisted my
weren't so easily persuaded by the finger-wagging warnings. "Oh, I'm just
specter of curable ailments or of being very fin de sicle about it," she
pregnancies that didn't affect them. The said, cheerfully. "Besides, I'm not as
incurable specter of AIDS became a handy much of a feminist about this condom
angel of guilt hovering over our beds, thing as you are, Tracy."
urging our customers to wear condoms. That really shut me up, since I regarded
Pre-AIDS, when condoms were not always myself not as a feminist but as a
the norm, it was normal to get tested at post-feminist. God, was HIV turning me
least monthly for a range of STDs into one of those preachy militant
(sexually transmitted diseases). This friends -- the kind of female friend who
wasn't just time-consuming, it was advises you not to lose weight because
expensive. But worth it, of course. she fears you'll develop an eating
"Before AIDS," one friend reminisced, "I disorder (even though you really need to
used to spend $200 a month on gonorrhea lose 15 pounds)?
cultures and lab tests. Once I actually I was somewhat pissed off with her. A
had to get a penicillin shot." And once, prostitute who decides to take risks with
she even got pregnant, as a result of the her body would be viewed as a social
imperfections of the diaphragm method. menace in need of rehab, a dangerous
Condoms have made her life safer and vector of disease, perhaps even a felon
saner by reducing her medical and in some parts of the United States. Only
emotional overhead a shameless amateur could get away with
When your body is your portable this.
workstation, you fear for its safety. It was indeed a very fin de sicle
You're alert to the many bugs, glitches moment: My "virtuous" friend had never
and unwelcome problems that can endanger disapproved of my sexual conduct, was
its health, put you out of work, make you quite supportive of my right to do it,
less marketable. For many prostitutes, and I was the scandalized, self-righteous
AIDS is just one of these hazards and one. I wanted to be a good sexual
it's not even the largest threat in our citizen and she didn't care one way or
sex lives. the other. In reality, I was more
Safe sex means more than preventing preoccupied with sex-based "virtue" than
infection with HIV. It means increasing she was. I consoled myself with the
protection of your cervix from HPV (human thought that I, the responsible sex
papilloma virus) and cancer by using a professional, was taking proper care of
barrier like a condom or a diaphragm. It my intimate equipment.
means protecting your throat against






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